For starters, in case you can't tell, He's Just Not That Into You is a self-help book for women who, for some reason, just can't see the signs that a man might not be physically, emotionally, or otherwise available to them.
Now, I enjoyed the book. I feel it brought light to situations that for some reason, women seem to let slide when they absolutely shouldn't. However, there are two major things I'd like to point out:
1. I feel that Greg, the man answering the questions and letters, and giving advice, has a bit of an archaic outlook when it comes to relationships: if a man is really into you, he should be the one calling you, asking you out, doting upon you. etc, etc, etc. you should not be the pursuer. if you are, he insists, He's Just Not That Into You.
I'll start by giving the cons to this manner of thinking:
In this day and age, not every woman wants to sit around and wait for the perfect man to realize he has found the perfect woman, and thusly, ask her out, ask her how many children she'd like to have, ask her to marry him, and live happily ever after. Most believe that men need a bit of poking and prodding, and sometimes the lighting of small fires (or giant blazes) under their asses in order to get the ball rolling is necessary. Men are dumb creatures and sometimes they need "the right choice" to be pointed out to them. Greg says: Do not poke and prod. Eventually, he'll come to you. If you are the right choice, he'll just know.
Pros:
Well, what woman doesn't want to be chased after and doted upon?
2. Also, and this isn't a criticism against the book or its authors, but reading this book reminded me of how poorly women treat themselves. I mean this in the sense that, women are so willing to settle for "good enough" or "better than nothing" and completely overlook the things that make them miserable because they are just so darn excited to have some attention. This saddens me greatly.
I don't know, maybe it's just because my stance on relationships is so completely unyielding. I have ridiculously high expectations when it comes to someone getting to a part of me that's so delicate. I am admittedly a brick wall of a girl, and it is hell on earth trying to crack my shell. Despite the fact that in almost 24 years I have never had a boyfriend, I've dealt with my share of no good men. I've witnessed some of the worst kind of men compliments of my mother and her poor choices. I refuse to spend my life depending on and living for someone who doesn't treat me like a queen. Because I think when you love someone, it comes down to this: You will do everything in your power to make them happy. And if they love you the way you love them, they will reciprocate (without prodding).
I feel like I just talked in circles, but these are the thoughts floating around in my brain after this book. It's pretty good and I recommend it to every girl who has wondered why she just cant seem to keep, pick, or choose the right guy. Most likely? It's not you. It's him.
Guys are simple creatures, everyone. Make sure you find one who treats you as you should be treated. If you have to work hard to keep his interest, well, He's Just Not That Into You. Don't settle.
